In my support group on FB a lovely lady took the initiative to coordinate a holiday gift exchange, I thought that would be a great way to connect with someone that has been or is going through infertility. Yesterday I was assigned a partner, I added her, read her blog and gathered that she was a 20 year old surrogate that has 4 kids. My initial reaction was; No! Why is she in this group anyway?! We have nothing in common!. I know I sound really bitchy right now, I tried to keep an open mind but I feel like I can't take her seriously. The image that keeps popping in my head "Juno".
I disagree with the concept of surrogacy, apart from all the good intentions, it's basically reproductive prostitution. The negative ethical, legal, social and psychological repercussions outweigh the positive. I think people who have lost their ability to carry their own child, and want to be parents should adopt. That's just my opinion.
Sorry for the bitchiness I had to get it off my chest :)
I disagree with the concept of surrogacy, apart from all the good intentions, it's basically reproductive prostitution. The negative ethical, legal, social and psychological repercussions outweigh the positive. I think people who have lost their ability to carry their own child, and want to be parents should adopt. That's just my opinion.
Sorry for the bitchiness I had to get it off my chest :)
Wow what a shock to realize that about your partner. What the heck was she doing on an infertility group? Trying to find her next couple wanting a surrogate?
ReplyDeleteI don't know if I agree with you on the point of just going to adoption instead of surrogacy because to me it is almost the same as why do IVF yourself? why not just adopt...but I do however agree that she shouldn't be in an Infertility group...none of the groups I am in on FB actually say infertility so I suppose it wouldn't matter that she was in it...I hope you don't think I am being rude, just my opinion :)
ReplyDeleteOf course I don't think you're being rude! I respect everyone's opinion :) I'm not sure if you're participating in the gift exchange but in the description it says "for anyone who has struggled with ttc". I'm not judging the surrogate I'm sure she needs support as much as anyone else, I just didn't feel I could connect with her.
ReplyDeleteOn the matter of surrogacy I believe the womb has a part in who the child is, not just the genetics. So I would only do IVF as long as it's my egg and my husbands sperm, in my uterus.
Thank you Kim for your comments! I love you for being my only follower :)